tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post8599349255278375042..comments2023-11-05T07:51:12.127-05:00Comments on <br><br><br><center>S2T: Stinkypaw's</center>: I'm growing...stinkypawhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04418558395508830375noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-15195945188069652162008-06-27T01:38:00.000-04:002008-06-27T01:38:00.000-04:00jason67: Hee. You sure will!<B>jason67</B>: Hee. You sure will!stinkypawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04418558395508830375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-26225806016293601602008-06-25T07:20:00.000-04:002008-06-25T07:20:00.000-04:00Well, in this case, your mother's indecision works...Well, in this case, your mother's indecision works in MY favor... ;-)<BR/><BR/>See you guys on the 12th!Jason Stocklhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04365360566065882009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-91637201866787040332008-06-22T19:11:00.000-04:002008-06-22T19:11:00.000-04:00grail: I also think it is just the same for every ...<B>grail</B>: I also think it is just the same for every parents in regards to their kids... that is what makes life so interesting, I guess.<BR/><BR/><B>paisley</B>: That would be one useful button I'd like to find! ;-)stinkypawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04418558395508830375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-69885333891639608702008-06-20T18:23:00.000-04:002008-06-20T18:23:00.000-04:00Parental relationships are so hard. At least you ...Parental relationships are so hard. At least you tried. I guess I should say never quit trying, which is hard to say when it is so hurtful.<BR/><BR/>My BFF just had to pretty much say goodbye to her relationship with her dad. So much hurt and terrible things. She's healed so much but just realized that she's not dealing with a normal person, but with a narcissist who will never change no matter how much she wants to think he has.<BR/><BR/>Tough stuff. I'm sorry you had to go through that. You have a great attitude about it, though. Too bad we can't switch off that "approval" button when we get older, eh?Paisleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01627902202210039719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-36828333596872019782008-06-20T09:37:00.000-04:002008-06-20T09:37:00.000-04:00Yes, sadly getting older means that we have to com...Yes, sadly getting older means that we have to come to terms with stuff that we would rather not. I am still working on that with my mom. I think that we all have these wonderful ideas about what our parents should be and when they are not it is really hard not to be disapointed.Site managerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02952854124426393851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-27966099894162786672008-06-19T23:33:00.000-04:002008-06-19T23:33:00.000-04:00lizgwiz: Thanks Liz!<B>lizgwiz</B>: Thanks Liz!stinkypawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04418558395508830375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-35204010666413093172008-06-19T11:47:00.000-04:002008-06-19T11:47:00.000-04:00Awww..I'm sorry you tried to do something nice and...Awww..I'm sorry you tried to do something nice and got treated like that. But you tried. Good for you! (And her loss.)lizgwizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10907508137794025189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-24614909791838440552008-06-19T01:24:00.000-04:002008-06-19T01:24:00.000-04:003c: True.marius: It's all good, frustrating, but p...<B>3c</B>: True.<BR/><BR/><B>marius</B>: It's all good, frustrating, but part of the lesson.<BR/><BR/><B>brave a</B>: We all have issues, right? I'm trying to be there, but with a little "step back"...<BR/><BR/><B>ananke</B>: Siblings can be a handful as well, I'm sure, wouldn't know since I'm alone.<BR/><BR/><B>jane</B>: They married in their 20s, and my dad died in 99. She's never been alone and can't be. Her beau moved in with her within 2 months of my father's passing. I've came to realise that I was better off not having any expectation.<BR/><BR/>If I wouldn't want you (readers) to comment I would turn them off, so no worries about overstepping the bounderies, and if that happens I'll let you know! Not a problem! ;-)stinkypawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04418558395508830375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-22802385359489464352008-06-19T00:33:00.000-04:002008-06-19T00:33:00.000-04:00My dad died in '93. Since then, my mom has become ...My dad died in '93. Since then, my mom has become a different person. I can say she actually mourned for 8 years. I'm mentioning this because I'm assuming your parents got married young & now is the 1st time your mom isn't with your dad. I'd imagine your mom may not even know who she is anymore. Adding to the grieving process comes the realization that she no longer knows herself. This really may be the 1st time your mom actually is making her mind up for her & her alone.<BR/>My purpose in writing this isn't to make you feel bad, and of course I could be 100% off here. My relationship with my mom is nothing like it was when my dad was alive. Sometimes our roles are reversed, sometimes we're best friends, sometimes we talk about guys!, sometimes I almost can't stand her. She's weak in areas I always thought she was strong, she's strong in areas I figured she was weak. I guess what I'm trying to say is: expect the unexpected. Throw out what used to be & try to see her for "her", she's not part of "them" anymore. As much as that hurts to say & realize, for your mom it's what she's having to come to terms with.<BR/><BR/>I hope I didn't overstep my boundaries.Jane Doehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07758069101111238560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-61348842146744299672008-06-18T14:22:00.000-04:002008-06-18T14:22:00.000-04:00I have the same problem but it's with my sisters. ...I have the same problem but it's with my sisters. I have three of them but I've come to the conclusion that they just plain don't want me around. Unless they need something. Kinda sucky but what can you do? You're still a good daughter to offer even if you know it won't happen.Annakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618621465298118846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-51932213246624643312008-06-18T14:02:00.000-04:002008-06-18T14:02:00.000-04:00As a member of the "sandwich generation" with two ...As a member of the "sandwich generation" with two kids and a father and a mother-in-law, there are days when dealing with the children is SO much easier than dealing with the parents.<BR/><BR/>I'm not really speaking to my father on a regular basis, mostly because he has become a different person since my mother's death two years ago.<BR/><BR/>And then my mother-in-law has her own issues, but she does us a really big favor by helping us out with childcare, so I am on my best behavior with her.<BR/><BR/>I think one of the biggest problem with dealing with our parents is that they aren't going to change and we have no choice in the outcomes, which can be very disheartening.<BR/><BR/>But you can still be the best daughter you can be and that's the best she should ever expect of you.Brave Astronauthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13893671129001583065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-42735267069953983142008-06-18T13:39:00.000-04:002008-06-18T13:39:00.000-04:00Not necessarily older, but definately wiser. It s...Not necessarily older, but definately wiser. It sounds like it wasn't the most pleasant lesson, though. I'm sorry you had to feel that.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09452924829161040975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25689012.post-22309558558388202222008-06-18T12:20:00.000-04:002008-06-18T12:20:00.000-04:00That's a good attitude. We can't make our parents ...That's a good attitude. We can't make our parents what we want them to be anymore than they can make us what they want us to be. We're all connected nonetheless. :)3carnationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942247215569463561noreply@blogger.com