Why can't we just say that!?

Why is it that in today's world we CAN NOT say what we mean? Why is it, that we feel this need to play "protector" of everybody? Nobody is honest anymore. Nobody keeps their word. Noboby tells the truth. Why?

Like I did write in my profile, at times I am too honest. I call it like I see it. Yes I know, there are some things you shouldn't say, but honestly I don't get that. If you want my opinion, and ask for it, be prepared to get an answer. It will most likely not be what you wanted to hear, but it will be honest. People who have been "exposed" to me, know better than to ask me for an opinion. And I'll be the first to admit that at times, I'll give it without being asked. ...my bad!

My mother was the first person truly exposed to my brutal honesty. How many times did she buy a new piece of clothes and would ask if I liked it. And then she would get upset because I didn't share her taste. I told her many times, not to ask. I would vary my answer, to "spare" her feelings, but even then she knew that it wasn't "my taste" and that I "really" didn't like it.

Why is it cute and charming in a kid to speak the truth and it's perceived as being spiteful in an adult? Because the kid doesn't know better? Better than what, to lie not to "upset" the other?
As an adult we should do our best not to lie, but we lost that along the way... It's in a ditch somewhere with respect, dignity, pride, common sense, etc. But instead of not trying to lie, we cultivate this need to "protect" other people's feeling, not to hurt anybody, to be "politically-correct" all the time. It's ridiculous!

I hate it when I say something and someone tells me: "But really you didn't say that?" Yes I did!
For example: The other day I needed technical support for a software we use, so I called their support dept. The communication was really bad, poor quality headset or I don't know, AND the man who answered had this really, really thick accent.
So I first told him that the quality of the communication wasn't that good. Then he started asking me questions. I couldn't make out half of what he was saying (and I've been exposed to quite an array of accents in the past), so I would asked him to repeat. Even then it wasn't much better. At one point I lost it (already have a VERY short fuse, I was frustrated with the bug in their software, the line was bad and now I culdn't make out what the hell he was saying), to which he said "Ma'am no need to be so..." "So, what?" I asked. He didn't answer and before he even tried I told him: "Listen I'm sorry if I'm abrupt, but if I'm calling you should know that the chances are that I'm frustrated because something isn't working right. Plus, I told you that the communication is really bad and to top it off you have this really thick accent that I can't understand, so sorry if I'm soooo...." He didn't say anything after that. Put me on hold, when he came back the line sounded better (clearer) and he tried to help me figure my problem out (something along the way worked), so I thanked him and hung up.

When I was telling a friend about this call, she was all surprised that I actually told the "poor man" that he had a thick accent! But he did!!! I have one when I speak English, and I don't get bend out of shape about it, I'm French-Canadian, it's only normal that I should have an accent! I don't get upset when someone (like hubby often does) corrects me. I know that there are words that I have a hard time pronouncing... that's ok. (Anyway, that's part of my "charms"!)

We have become such hypocrite, it's unreal. Just yesterday while IM with a friend in Zurich who read this post (about MIL) he was wondering if I should have said what I've said. Why? I didn't lie. And that's how I felt at the time. Try to amend things? Let's get real here, if after 13 years it hasn't been ok it won't be anytime soon. Plus she doesn't have the internet and even if she did, I was honest so I have NOTHING to hide ot to feel bad about. And why should I pretend that everything is rosy when in fact it isn't? I don't care much for apparences...

People are responsible of how they feel. I hate it when I hear people say: "So and so makes me feel so ..." YOU feel that way, he can not make you feel anything unless you choose to. Unless the other person has the intent to hurt you (verbally or otherwise) than YOU chose to feel that way. It took me a while to realise that one, abd to comprehend it as well... Does that mean that I might have to be responsible??? No? It can't be? Not the R word?! Responsible for what I do, say, think, now that's a scary thought isn't it?