Wednesday, June 07, 2006

Phase Two: Step 8

They claimed that on average people lose around 1 lb during Phase One. I have no clue if I did, since I got rid of our scale many years ago. I’ll find out if I’ve lost weight by how I feel in my clothes and when I go back to see our GP in August.

Phase One was about laying the foundation for healthy sustained weight loss and creating the conditions for change. Phase Two should put it into practice. The only way to get something different is to Do Something Different!

In Phase One I realized that habits do govern a large part of my life. They even influence how I do things. They (the doctors who wrote the book) say that habits even control how we behave and interact with other people. In Phase Two I’ll be asked to behave differently than I normally do, to explore different parts of my personality that I don’t use that often. It sounds interesting to me to “play” or “act”. By me acting a little different might get others to act differently towards me …and that could be very interesting and beneficial to my well being overall.

My task for today is: Be less assertive.

Since I’m at home most of the time, I don’t have that much interaction with people/co-workers. I had lunch with a friend today and I tried to apply that task. I let her decide where we would be having lunch (her place, she fixed a good salad and quiche). Then when we talked business I gave her my opinion (I was there for that, to help her start her own business, so I couldn’t be completely unassertive!), I didn’t commit to anything, I gave her ideas and let her run with it.

I’ll try to do it more often. I’ve been known to be either “black or white”, no shades of gray with me. In doing this task (and the following ones, I think) I’ll learn to see the benefice (I’m hopping here!) of being more in the gray zone – hubby’s favorite spot in the sun! Can’t hurt, right?

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