I’m one for whom self-respect, honesty and responsibility are VERY important. Too many people go through their life “unaware” or “unconscious” and I have a really hard time with that. We have become this irresponsible society and we slither our way through life without taking on any responsibility for our actions. We blame others, our times, etc., but never ourselves, and that is sickening to me!
If someone in a marriage is having trouble, why is it that this person doesn’t face the issues at hands before turning to a lover or walking out? Let’s take the easy way out. Let’s not talk, and try to fix anything. To appease our conscience we try a little, and then when it doesn’t happen fast enough we give up. People don’t know the meaning of commitment anymore.
We play with fire and then get upset when we get burn – let’s get real here! If you’re stupid enough to play with fire, then don’t come crying when your house burns down – you lit that fire yourself!
I have a real issue with people who talk the talk, but don't walk the walk. If you say that you want to work at it, lets say your relationship, then why are you keeping your "options" open? It doesn't make sense to me. You need to focus on one thing and that thing alone if you want to fix it. You can't say you want to save your marriage and then make a date with a lover... that will never work. And we have to stop "easing" our conscience by justifying your actions. It’s not because you told your husband what you want and are not getting it, immediately, that it gives you the right to turn around and find it with someone else.
And what’s up with the threats? I have a friend who casually during conversation will (often) say to her husband that she can leave if that’s what he wants. I hate that. I actually told her that it was disrespectful and she flipped me the finger… ok then!
People don’t mean what they say anymore either. When I said my vows to my husband I meant them. I knew what I was getting myself into and was willing to work at it, and respect the promises I’ve made. I’m not saying it’s always easy, but at least I give it an honest try.
We are such hypocrites – we lie all the time, first and foremost to ourselves and we’re too stupid to realise it and then to others. The worst part of it all is that we believe our lies!
At times, I wish I could grab some people by the shoulders and shake them. Hard. Knock some sense into them, wake them up or something… but I can’t. That’s just not the society we live in.
I’ll stop here for now. Even though have a lot more to write.
...I feel a little better now... ;-D
3 comments:
Sounds like a bad situation. (Understatement of the year.) I know someone who was dating someone while going to marriage counseling with the spouse. Surprisingly (sarcastic) the marriage did not work out.
Absolutely. There are days when I just want to smack people and ask them what the HELL were they thinking?
I'm not perfect... I make mistakes all the time. But I would hope that I would never be dumb enough to screw up all the good things in my life, especially my marriage. It isn't always easy, and I'm glad for that... it makes me appreciate him more every single day!
-r-: Amazing isn't it? And I'm sure that person wondered why, in the end, it didn't work.
dcmm: That's the problem, they don't THINK!!!
Nobody's perfect, we all make mistakes. But to keep repeating the same mistake over and over that's just plain stupid. I consider myself lucky with my husband, and NEVER would I tell him to f'off (even if at times I felt like it) because I respect him! And that is such a foreign concept for so many!
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