Wednesday, September 10, 2008

All done...

You might have guessed why I haven’t been around so far this week (not that you’d miss me or anything like that), my mother’s beau past away early Monday morning.

She had called me on Sunday, in a panic, because he had just slipped into a coma, and his two kids had decided to leave since he was no longer responsive. They didn’t want to see him like this. As if my mother did! Hubby and I made our way to the hospital. I had planned to stay with her and support her in whatever her decision would be. She was exhausted and very nervous. We spent the night up talking and reminiscing. I was there for her and that was what mattered to me.
Monday morning, since we didn’t sleep a wink we started to take care of things. We made the funeral arrangements, ordered flowers, placed an add in the paper, advised people, planed a buffet, etc. It was a long day. By the time I left her place, after one of her brother showed up, I was done. I got home, took a long hot shower, ate a bowl of cereal and crashed. According to Hubby I was knocked out cold. I did sleep for over ten hours. Tuesday was the viewing. What a long, strenuous, sad day.

This morning was the funeral service. Even if I wasn’t close to him, I did like him. He was a good old man, so I paid him a little tribute during the eulogy. I was a little more emotional than anticipated, and for that I blame my tiredness.

It’s always in occasions like these that you realise who your friends are. I was happy to see that some of our friends came to pay their respect even if they didn’t really know him nor my mother, but out of “respect” for me, they came. That touched me. I’m thankful for the really good friends in our lives.

Overall, everything went well and according to plan. Of course, I could tell you about how some people have no concept of respect and self-presentation; how I felt odd doing all the preparations when the deceased’s kids didn’t even offer to help in anyway… By the way, when I say “kids” both of them are older than I am, and not only by a few months, let’s think years. Since it’s been a long four days, I’ll leave you with this. I must say, it’s good to be home and to think that at least that part of the process is done. Now, I’ll have to deal with my mother’s sadness and take care of her… but that, I can manage, at least I think so…

13 comments:

flurrious said...

I'm so sorry. I hope your mom will be okay. She's lucky to have you to help her get through this.

Mousse said...

Our deepest, heartfelt condolenses. Your Mom is very blessed to have you. Love Mousse & Mike

Marius said...

Death brings out the best, and the worst in people. You are in the first column. Hugs, my friend.

Annake said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to your family and your mother is a lucky woman to have such a wonderful daughter. {{{HUGS}}}

Traceytreasure said...

I'm so sorry for your loss and your Mom's loss. Words can't even describe how sad I am for you all. I thought about you a lot this week. I had a feeling that you were going through something heavy this week. It was really nice of you to step up and be the one to handle everything. Sometimes kids (no matter how old they are)don't know what to do, so they don't do anything. They take the easy way out and that's how they deal with loss. Everyone handles death differently.

Big hugs and love to you and your Mom!!

lizgwiz said...

I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mother.

PinkPiddyPaws said...

My thoughts and warmest wishes are with you and your family.

I've never know what to do about funerals when it's someone related to a close friend. It's nice to see that your friends showing up to show you support gave you strength. Now I know...

Monkey said...

I am sorry for you and your mom. My thoughts are with both of you.

noble pig said...

Oh no, I'm so sorry. You are the best for doing all that for your Mom. Poo on his kids, what's wrong with people anyway.

She's lucky to have you.

Stinkypaw said...

Thank you all for your support. It means a lot.

Purple Pigeon said...

I figured thats why you hadn't been around in a while. My thoughts are with you and ur mother.

*hugs*

jane said...

Thank goodness your mom has you & not those 2 clods! How very insensitive of them. We were told by Hospice that the dying can still hear you regardless of appearances.

Your poor mom, her heart must ache. She'll be in my thoughts & so will you.

Periwinkle Studio said...

I am sorry and my heart goes out to you and your family! (( Hugs))